Getting into the swing of things

 

So, you like the idea of trying your hand in the swinging scene but spook yourself with the thought of meeting pushy or demanding people expecting something of you, having to walk around naked in front of strangers or you’re just a bit nervy because you won’t know what to say or do?

 

I appreciate these fears as I faced them myself, not too long ago. Let me tell you, this scene and it’s followers are relaxed every day people, just like you and me.

 

The swinging scene is very much about the social aspect. Meeting new people, having a natter over a drink, maybe a bit of dancing and then, if there’s a mutual connection, things might lead onto a bit of intimate fun.

 

Now, as a newbie to the swinging scene this is most likely where you’re curiosity really gets into it’s stride.  “What the heck happens at this point? Who does what, with who, when, how…..” to touch on some things running through your mind.

 

First of all, there are no code words or no right or wrong things to say, simply be yourself and express yourself in a way you would have done back in your single days – flirty looks, suggestive remarks or whatever your thing might be.

 

The scene mainly consists of couples – though single ladies and men are very much part of it – and therefore, the most common scenarios are Soft Swap or Full Swap.

 

Soft Swap is where two – or more – couples will engage in oral and sexual intercourse in the same room/on the same bed with their own partners. There might be a bit of caressing of the other couple and sometimes swapping of oral acts on the other couple but largely Soft Swap is sticking with your own partner.

 

Full Swap, here a couple will swap partners for oral and/or sexual intercourse. This can take place in the same room/on the same bed or in separate rooms – as per the individual’s desire.

 

You might want to discuss your limits before setting off to Effrenata/a club. Do you want Soft Swap only or are you BOTH ready for Full Swap, and will you be willing to go Full Swap Same Room or Full Swap Separate Rooms. Even most experienced Swingers like to keep the fun all in one room.

 

It is important to discuss this first, you don’t want a surprise when your partner agrees to something that you really aren’t comfortable with.

 

Another good idea before you go is to have a SAFE WORD. This doesn’t just apply to the BDSM world you know. A safe word can be just a code you use with your partner to say “Get me the Hell Out of Here” or “I like this are you OK with it?”.

 

At the festival there really will be something for everybody, from small private play areas to more open free for all areas. You will also have the opportunity to explore Threesomes, Orgies, Greedy-Girl (gangbang), Glory Holes, BDSM, Voyeurism and Exhibitionism to name a few.

 

But please note, Effrenata is as much about the music, food, drink and enjoying the outdoors as it is about the swinging lifestyle - more commonly known these days as 'The Lifestyle'. Festival goers wear their clothes in all areas of the festival – nobody needs to get naked, unless they want to! So you can rest assured you’ll be able to wander around freely, fully dressed just taking in the sights.

 

Within each marquee there will be areas for folk to get their rocks off together, some areas are visible to fellow festival goers and some are concealed from prying eyes.

 

If you’re thinking about coming but are worried that you’re going to be expected to do something… tosh! Not the case whatsoever. This is just a festival that happens to have areas where people can have a bit of adult fun together, in a clean, contemporary setting with other like-minded individuals. Many couples go just to make friends and have fun as a couple.

 

You’re more than welcome to join us at Effrenata for the weekend with peace of mind that you do not have to engage in any sexual activity at all if you don’t want to – but what a shame that would be ;-)

 

Lastly, sexual health. Effrenata is a strong supporter and promoter of safe, clean sexual health. We encourage the use of condoms at all times and to keep good track of your sexual health with regular visits to your local GUM clinic – if you’re involved or thinking about getting involved in the scene it’s your duty to others to ensure your own clean bill of health. While others and we do promote the use of condoms accidents do happen, condoms do break so, be sure to know that you are clean for this possibility. Of course, some folk will practice un-safe sex – without a condom. People who prefer sex like this will point it out to you, giving you the choice to move on if it’s not for you.

 

So, if you like the idea of having a bit of fun with another couple, joining a married couple as a single, exploring your bi-side, being the centre of attention in a Greedy-Girl scenario or taking part in a group orgy come and join us for an un-restrained weekend in the countryside and remember, you do not have to do anything you don’t want to do... and you can probably do anything you do want ;-)

 

Love and happiness,

 

Paul

 

Co-founder effrenata